اسکا تحفہ، اسکی سزا

سال بھر پہلے کی بات ہئ ایک آواز نے اسکے کانوں میں رس گھول دیا، مبارک ہو بیٹی ہوئی ہے
اسوقت کی کیفیت کو نہ الفاظ بیان کر سکتے ہیں، نہ کوئی عمل، اسنے نے اسے دیکھا، گود میں لیا، آنکھیں کھولے پٹپٹاتے ہوئے گھور رہی تھی کہاں اگئی میں ہا ہا ہا، گود میں لے کر غور سے دیکھا، 10 انگلیاں ہاتھ میں 10 پیر میں
وہ بالکل کامل، بہت خوبصورت تھی، اور مستقبل کے لئے لامتناہی امکانات اسکی آنکھوں کے سامنے روشن ہوگئے، چند لمحے وہ چند لمحے وہ کہیں اور تھا، اسکے ساتھ کھیلنے سے لے کر اسکول جانے تک، اسکی شادی سے لے کر اسکی اولاد گود میں پالنے تک کا سفر چند لمحات میں سر کر چکا تھا، اسکی آنکھیں چمک رہیں تھی شاید، بس وہ یہ بھول گیا تھا کہ اسکے اپنی بیٹی کے ساتھ دیکھے گئے خواب پورے تب ہی ہو سکتے ہیں جب اسکی شادی کامیاب ٹہرے۔

عموما تعلقات یک دم ختم نہیں ہوتے، یہ خود کش بمبار کی طرح یک دم نہیں پھٹتے ، بلکہ تعلقات آہستہ آہستہ سرد مہری کا روپ اختیار کرتے اپنے انجام کی جانب بڑھتے ہیں، اسے ہمیشہ لگا کہ چیزیں بہتر ہوسکتیں ہیں، لیکن وہ نہیں جانتا تھا کہ آتش فشاں اندر ہی اندر ابل رہا ہے اور ابھی کچھ ہی دیر میں وہ اپنی بیٹی کہ جو ابھی ڈائپر اور مائع غزا پر تھی اس سے محروم ہونے والا ہے، اسکی پہلی سالگرہ سے پہلے اسے کھونے والا ہے، کھیلنا اور اسکول جانا تو دور کی بات وہ اسکا کیک کاٹنے تک سے محروم ہونے والا ہے۔ خانگی اختلافات اسے صرف اسکی شریک حیات سے نہیں اسکی بیٹی سے بھی دور کرنے والے ہیں۔

پھر وہ دن آگیا، لوگوں کو شاید بھیانک سپنے آتے ہیں اسکی زندگی میں بھیانک دن اگیا، اسکی اہلیہ اپنی بیٹی کو لے کر رخصت ہوگئی، ایک شوہر ہونے اور ایک باپ ہونے میں بڑا فرق ہوتا ہے اس بات کو وہ تو پہلے سے جانتا تھا لیکن شاید کوئی اور نہیں۔


اصل میں دنیا کے بہرے کانوں نے اس تلخ حقیقت کو شاید کبھی نہیں سمجھا نہ سمجھ سکے شاید ، ماں کی ممتا پر نہ کسی کو شک ہے نہ سوال لیکن باپ کی شفقت؟ اس شفقت کا اظہار نہ کر پانا؟ اس شفقت کے اظہار سے محروم ہوجانا اس دکھ کو محسوس کرنے کا خیال ابھی دنیا کو نہیں آیا

اس لئے اسے چاہیئے کہ وہ اپنے اس تحفے کی یادوں کو دل میں بسائے سزا بھگتے کہ یہی اس کے کئے کا پھل ہے 

MBTI & Practising Doctors By Chris Nancollas

Have you ever been puzzled by the behaviour of people around you? As Chris Nancollasexplains, the MBTI could help you to understand different personality types

I first encountered the Myers-Briggs type indicator (MBTI), the world's most popular psychometric test, on a general practitioner refresher course. The reaction of my fellow GPs, a tough audience at the best of times, was pretty mixed. One man next to me muttered “bloody astrology” and disappeared during the interval. Yet, for me, the MBTI was, and remains, the most important thing I've studied since medical school. Suddenly, the chaos of human relationships was reduced to order, and perhaps more intriguingly, an order which was subconsciously familiar.

The MBTI is a questionnaire which expresses an individual's personality in four parameters: Extroversion or Introversion, Sensing or iNtuition, Thinking or Feeling, and Judging or Perceiving. A person's personality type comes out as ENTP or ISFJ and so on. There are 16 possible types. My own type is INTP. The best way to understand how it works is to examine each of the paired parameters.

Extroversion or introversion

People who prefer extroversion focus their energy on the external world, while those who prefer introversion focus on their internal world. Put simply, the extrovert relaxes by going down the pub, the introvert by reading a book. Much to my surprise I preferred introversion, which means I need solitary time to recharge my batteries, learn best by reflection, and tend to be private and contained. Before I discovered the MBTI, I would come home from work absolutely exhausted, having spent the day reacting non-stop with the outside world. Armed with my personality type, I realised I had to build in quiet periods where I had time to marshal my thoughts. The second advantage of knowing my preference was shedding the guilt I used to feel about not going to evening lectures and meetings. I always knew I learnt better through reading.

Sensing or intuition

The second pair of letters, sensing or intuition, shows how you take in information, which is of particular importance in consulting. Sensers like facts and figures, concrete reality, while intuitives prefer the big picture and make mental leaps. One thing I found particularly wearisome, as an intuitive, were patients who insisted on knowing every single practical detail of their treatment: “And what time do you take the pill, doctor?... With food or without food?... And what sort of food do you take it with?” Type theory shows that these are merely people who prefer sensing to take in information. The corresponding conversation with an intuitive, “Yeah, whatever,” is equally likely to irritate the sensing doctor. People who prefer sensing are in the majority in the population, so information is more likely to be presented in the form of protocols, flow charts, and guidelines. There are a surprising number of intuitives in medicine, which accounts for the often violent opposition to frameworks and targets.

Thinking or feeling

Thinking or feeling, the way of making decisions, is the only one with a sex bias: men tend more towards thinking, while women prefer feeling. Empathy and compassion are the strengths of the preference for feeling, and explain why there are so many Fs in the healthcare professions. In a science as unpredictable as medicine, thinkers need to curb their naturally tough minded instincts and appreciate the human side of their decisions. Those who prefer feeling must balance their compassion with the need to be tough at times. Thinkers can get unnerved by people with labile emotions and need to recognise this.

Judging or perceiving

The last couplet, judging or perceiving, explains the individual's orientation to time, the judger being organised and scheduled while the perceiver is casual and open ended. In practice, I have found this, along with the I/E axis, to be the most fertile source of conflict, especially in partnerships. People who prefer judging tend to be the leaders in organisations, and they simply cannot understand the perceiver's habitual lateness, over-running surgeries, and general disorganisation. If, like me, you are a perceiver and you choose general practice, you need to get a handle on time management quickly.

Strength of the MBTI

Once you gain a working knowledge of personality type, the world around you becomes more understandable. Are your clinical meetings dominated by the same four or five people? Do you wonder why some people sit there hardly saying a word? Why, when you are constantly rearranging surgeries does one partner always run late? These are all examples of type behaviour.

And the MBTI can prevent conflict. I remember mentioning to my senior partner that I'd had some further thoughts about something we had discussed at a practice meeting. He exploded: “You're always doing this, coming out with things three days later. Why can't you speak up at the time like everyone else?” So I told him that this was the way my type worked, and anyway, there was no way anyone could get a word in edgeways because he, an outspoken E, completely dominated the proceedings. He burst out laughing, and from then on made an elaborate point of inviting everyone to say their piece.

Type theory will not be to everyone's taste, but I would strongly recommend it to anyone who, like me, is alternately fascinated and perplexed by the behaviour of those around us. ■

Further reading

• Briggs Myers I. An introduction to type. Oxford: Oxford Psychologists Press, 1994
• Houghton A. Understanding personality type. BMJ Careers 2004;329:177-8

About Author:

Chris Nancollas general practitioner Newham, Gloucestershire  Nanco@aol.com 

 Content taken from http://careers.bmj.com

Swat, The Foot Prints

Swat is known valley of Kings, and it is said that if one place encompasses among the change among Pakistan, Both Cultural and Violent, that characterize the history of Pakistan it must be Swat Valley, And yet until 1970’s Swat was living anachronism, a land locked in Limbo, timeless, unchanging and undisturbed.

Swat Valley is a part of Khyber Pakhtun Khua ( Former NWFP) province of Pakistan, it stratches from from the Malakand pass above the Peshawar plains, through the foot hills of Hindukush, to the eastern most extent of the highest peaks of this marvelous mountain range.
Most of the swat residents are Pathans, fine featured, skinny look, with their Black Hairs and brown eyes, and every where men & women work on the grain fields together.
You can see lot of Irrigation canals crossing the land of Swat a one can say that a Huge water Buffalo with cleaned back horns flounder in ponds in pools. You can also found road side restaurants or “Dhabas” offering refreshing tea, from huge black stained kettles. A one can also witness smoke coming out from the pillars of stone walled houses of the villages that were made through a hole in a roof, just by seeing it u can easily judge “Something is Cooking”.
Despite the supreme beauty of this valley Khushal Khan Khatak a famous Pastho poet said that  “ To give King gladness, life is often so harsh in this valley.

If we talk about the weather it shifts up to 38 degree centigrade in summers and during summers this valley is been threatened by frequent droughts and freak storms, in an area which have only 15 percent of the land available for cultivation, makes farming unpredictable.

According to historians the valley’s human age extends from the first Stone Age ,  to the Aryan Invasion in 1700 B.C , to the Hindu Empire followed by Muslim rule, this valley witnessed all.

Swat is a true treasure trove of ancient times; The past is so attached to the present so that many families still using those graveyards which they used to use 3000 years back.

This valley has been gifted by a marvelous architecture left by Hindus & Buddhists, which consists of monuments, and knowledge in this fertile valley.

One can witness Swat’s long history of Hindu civilization by watching the rock carvings and ancient forts everywhere,  one of the 1208 Hindu vedics from the Rig veda tells about the Suvastu, which is now known as Swat river. Along with that one can find Buddhists Stupa’s, Monasteries, and rock carvings in this valley too.

History tells us from the 5000 years Swat was known as Fuedal Kingdom, since its last ruler deposed peacefully in 1969 through an agreement with the Government of Pakistan, who was known as Wali of Swat.
Way to Swat:
Both Via Air and road connect swat to Islamabad, you can take 35 minutes flight to Swat from Islamabad airport that will land at Saidu Sharif, or you can drive on three roads coming from Islamad all to Saidu Sharif the Capital of Swat,  or if you are driving through a Karakoram Highway, near Besham track moves to west over Shangla Pass to KhawazaKhela, this route takes almost ten hours if weather is dry, or one can travel Via Shahbaz garh across the Ambala Pass, to Buner which is across the Karakar Pass this route takes 5 hours to reach, one more route to reach there is the main route from the Mardan over the Malakand pass which takes around 3 & half hours.
Best Time to Visit Swat:
Spring is said to be best time to visit Swat, the valleys are a riot of pastelblossoms and contrasting shades of russet, temperature is ideal and the weather is quite predictable, in winters, its cold and its almost unreacheable to the northern end of Swat which is claimed to be most lovely part of this valley due to snowfall.
Sight Seeing:
If you drive from Mardan up to elevation of 5000 feet towards malakand pass that begins at Durgai, the road twists and turns in an endless series of sudden hairpin stripes, where it tops the Peak you can witness a breat taking view of the southern part of the magical scenic Valley.

The Pass is said to be guarded by Malakand’s fort which acted as a garrison for Sikh infantry which was known as 1000 Sikh infantry  which in 1897 defeated the army of  1000 Pastun zealots , killing 4000 of them.  This war was known as the most greatest battle ever fought at this place. 

The Town of bat khela where Swat leaves its tunnels under the hills and spread out over the series of narrow barrages , marks the start of the descent into Swat.

The First bridge over the river leads to Chakdara the Ancient market, that once waxed rich on the passing trades of great silk route cutting through its main street.

In Chakdaraone can found Buddhist monestries, Stupas, and Shrines all around that features Budhists activities in this area in ancient times,  many of the world renownwed Gandhara Scluptures are being moved to Chakdara Museum one mile away from this town.
On Nearby one can witness Damkoth hills, where ruins of larget 8^th century Hindu fort which was conqured and razed by Mahmud Ghaznavi in 10^th century.
The first occupants of Damkoth hills were Aryans, and after them Monks of first century of Buddhist community resettled them, later in Sixteenth Century Emperor Akbar built huge fort to defend the trade route between Agra and Kabul. Just after 3 centuries colonial administrators built another one on the top of the ruins.
All that now remains and prominent is Churchill’s picket, which is a small observation post where in 1897, Winston Churchill a war correspondent for London Daily Telegrapgh witnessed and wrote reports about the war between Pashtoon Tribesman & Colonial administration.
You can also witness a Budhsit Stupa representing the way to Nirvana on its western base along with Buddhist’s figures including Padmani and the Lotus bearer Bodhisattvas, the Stupa is in Dome shape. There is also a Buddhist Monastery on the Damkot’s 1200 high peak, which tells us the story that Buddhist community survive here for more then 400 years before Hindus Rajputs over ran them.
 The proper gatway town of Swat valley is located at Landaki some 12 Km away from town Chakdara, where a police checkpost has been built to register the visitors of Swat.
Almost very near to Landaki there are also 3 Buddhists stupas were found which make them unique as they were dedicated to Buddha, the teacher and Dharma, in Nimogram valley few Km away from Ladaki.
In Nimogram there are some more Stupas are found along with scluptures which are now housed under the Swat Museum located in Swat’s capital Saidu Sharif.
On the Main road near the turn of Nimogram , a one can witness the flat mound of Barikot Hill, where Alexander the Great struggled to captured the ancient town of Bazira. In Bazira a fort was built by 8^th century’s Hindu Rulers on the ruins of which one wall, rising 50 feet high can be seen till now, rest of the hill is now used for plough but scenic value of this place is that is verdant plain’s backdrop which is 2810 meter high Mount Ilam a scared peak always encircled by clouds and soothes the eyes of the viewer.

Mount Ilam was known for the long time the home of local gods according to religious ideology of Buddhists, this mountain contains so many names as Tibetians call him Mount Ilo, while a chinese traveller who actually climbed this mount in 630 AD named it Mount Hilo, In Buddhist Ideology this is the place where Lord Buddha sacrificed half of his life to hear the few words of revelation.
The Mystics who embraced his doctrine found heaven in Swat from the persecution of the Aryans and named the Valley Lidyana ( The Garden).
Later the Hindus imprinted it on the name of Vishnu’s incarnation Rama on the rocky summit. And before partition of sub continent Thousands of Hindus came to pay homage at this place, ignoring the hardships of climbing this summit which contains sloppy trek, now passing the track you can also witness the Sufaid mahal, summer house of first Wali of swat.
Along with that one can also visit Buner valley, there is a road to 1300 meters high at Karakar Pass leads south from Barikot ended up at the Valley. In this Valley Akbar the Great suffered a rare defeat and lost around 8000 of his strong army.
Also in this road you can found Gumbat where you can explore the ruins of one of the best-preserved Buddhist shrines in Swat.
Golden Days of Hazara:
If you travel three Km  after Barikot on the main highway you will reach to Shingerdar, there u will witness a golden domed Stupa, carrying many colors and paintings representing different symbols, although this Stupa is now becoming ruin because of not taking care of it, the base of this Stupa is made up with many stone carvings, depicting the Buddha’s life. This Stupa represents the Swat’s Buddhist culture in 3^rd and 4^th centuries.
After that you will find on nearby rocks a vague outline of elephant which according to local historians is meta-morphosis of a white elephant desptached to this spot when the Stupa was under construction with sacred relics of Buddha to be sealed inside. When the Stupa was completed the elephant died and become a rock.
One mile after Stupa, sculpted out of the cliff face adjacent to the main road, is a large, much abused support of Buddha, piles of stone at its base prove to the strength of an old belief that there was great importance to be won in the here after by tossing a rock at the images each time you pass; though any self respecting Buddhist would consider such an act disrespectful.

On the left side of this you will find an natural cave containing the bas-relief of bearded figure, wearing a crown, covered in the traditional costume of Swat’s Kushan rulers, long coat over Cossack trouser and boots, the base on which it stands is decorated by lions and smaller images.
Godara is located almost 6 Km away from all this, which is sadly defaced by the modern drawings which are unmatchable to original ones, this place contains stone carved images of Ox, Dogs, Horses, leopards, other animals and warriors in two wheeler chariots that indicates Aryan’s era in Swat, which was in some 1700 BC.
On the top of this cliff some artists tried to carve Bodhisattva, Padmani the Lotus Bearer and his attendants. Close to Udegram, a one can found a walled castle architecture founded around 1000 BC and it is supposed that it belongs to Hindu Religion, the triangular ruins covers twenty different periods according to archeologists, the ruins contains Main market and shops which are quite identifiable till this age.
If you travel almost 1 Km along the ridge that deides the upper Swat and lower Swat, you will found the walls of old town known as spring which was used to store water and supply it to entire valley, it was channeled along with the series of canals to the storage tank at the base of Six meter wide staircase that leads up to the sanctuary.
There you can also find the Shrine of Khushal Khan Baba, one of Sultan Mahmud Ghaznavi’s men who fell on spot while leading a siege towards the fort held by Raja Gira the Hindu Ruler of that time.
After 6 Km from Udegram town of Mingora is situated, this town having a history of around 2000 old year contains finest golf course, Hotels and an airport. Its been thriving throughout its history and its colorful Bazar offers a vivid mixture of hand crafted jewelry, semi precious stones and clothes. Its twin city is Saidu Sharif the Capital of Swat valley from where Fuedals overlords ruled the valley till 19^th century.
The Main Highlights of Swat is Old Palace which is now become a tourist hotel, you can also find a tomb of swat’s last emperor close to this Palace, Another fine building is Swat Museum which contains master pieces of Gandharan Art sculptures and also contains exciting folk history section along with exhibits of local wood carvings, embroidery, and tribal jewelry. This museum is located near one of the most important Buddhist shrines of the world Butkara.
At a place called Butkara II, and at leobanr and Matelai there are around 500 graves of Aryans belongs to 1700 BC discovered by Italian archeologists. There are also ruins of Aryan towns along with Swat river on the road from Mingora dating from 1000 BC.
Sixteen Km from Mingora at Jehanabad there is a huge 4-meter high stone carved Stupa of Buddha where he was said to be preach sermons in his times.

Visiting Swat is a lifetime memorable experience and one must plan to visit this place, which not only reflects beauty but also carries history.

Once Upon A Jam : Performance Based Approach

Music TV in Pakistan is disappearing. 'Top Of The Pops, and shows like that have gone, and it's bringing down the music industry. We should do as much as we can to keep our music TV and producers need to be more willing to accommodate live music. Keeping in mind there comes a brilliant Idea and that is "Once Upon A Jam".

The Idea was generated by a Multitalented artist (Actor, Anchor, Singer & Famous Khoji) "Tipu Yorguc" along with an alternative Rock Band "Music Mafia"

Malik Muhammad Ahad, Tipu Yorguc, Malik Shoukat

To me this Idea is great to perform Live Music, record it in raw form and present to audience to support and promote the original Music scene of Pakistan which is unfortunately being Hijacked by few non-skilled opportunists, I still remember the golden years of Pakistan's Music Industry when we were being followed by some of our neighbor countries, unfortunately those golden years are being snatched by few software based bands & vocalists, that not only caused loss to our Music Industry but also took us away from Live Music.

For me live music is beautiful and helps you to celebrate life in a unique way. Get out and explore. and after a very long time I am happy to get a chance to witness Live Music again in the form of "Once Upon A Jam".

No Doubt about it this idea is executed by thorough professionals Like Tipu Yorguc who proved his talent in multiple videos and performances,

Syed Tipu Yorguc
https://www.facebook.com/SyedYorgucTipuSharif

Along with a Talented Alternative Rock Band "Music Mafia" who also proved their talent in Multiple on Screen Appearances and performances especially by donating a Faiz Ahmad Faiz's "Dua" to WWF Earth Hour 2013, this band consist of Malik Muhammad Ahad (Lead Vocalist & Lyricist), Shoukat Malik (Lead Guitarist & Composer), Masroor Ahmad Khan (Base Guitarist)

Left to Right: Malik Muhammad Ahad, Masroor Ahmad Khan, Shoukat Malik
https://www.facebook.com/MUSICMAFIAPAKISTAN

I am personally very hopeful that this series "Once Upon A Jam" will rock the masses & will definitely promote Live Music scene in Pakistan's Music Industry.

On a closing note let's enjoy the first Video of Once Upon A Jam.

https://www.facebook.com/JamOnce

Youth's Expressions, can be a wave of Change

It's quite impressive that youth of Pakistan using Freedom of Speech on Social Media, highlighting common Man's issue in funny manner so that the message conveys easier, unlike Television youth is giving message in quite decent manner, which is to be appreciated like this video Jiye Bhutto By E-Sharp, they not only conveyed a message but also highlighted the mindsets of the Wadera's.

In another Video Parody of Imran Khan PTI has been done, it's funny but if you listen to the message between the lines it shows some setbacks youth receive from PTI


in My opinion this kind of approach in youth can active the real civil society of Pakistan.